Why You’re “Spectatoring” During Sex—and How to Stop

Why You’re “Spectatoring” During Sex—and How to Stop

DEAR DR. JENN,

Often during intercourse, i am too centered on my performance and look to enjoy it actually. At the best, my head simply wanders; at the worst, I’m thinking in what my own body appears like rather than exactly just what it feels as though. Just how do I stop? —Distracted Enthusiast

DEAR DISTRACTED LOVER,

You’re not alone. What you are actually experiencing is really what intercourse practitioners often call spectatoring, a term created by the popular ’60s sex scientists called Masters and Johnson. Continue reading